For instance, let\u2019s start with one of the most pervasive: soulmates.<\/a><\/p>\n There\u2019s a revolving idea that each person has one other person they are destined to be with, often called a soulmate.\u00a0<\/p>\n Is there just one person for you? Nope. There are a great many potential partners for you out there, and the possibility for you to choose (and have a happy relationship with) any one of them.\u00a0<\/p>\n We are in charge of our own paths and destinies. And truth be told, the idea of there being just one person<\/em> that is your romantic destiny creates unrealistic expectations about partnerships, not to mention generating fear and anxiety about never finding \u201cthe one.\u201d More on this later.<\/p>\n I\u2019m especially passionate about debunking ideas surrounding relationship anxiety.<\/a>\u00a0Anxiety of this nature is very real and painful, but it is often brushed off with catch-all statements like \u201cdoubt means don\u2019t\u201d or \u201crelationships should be easy.\u201d<\/p>\n So you begin to think you always have to be 100% certain and 100% happy for your relationship to be \u201cright.\u201d<\/p>\n Nope, guys. That\u2019s some bad advice there, and we\u2019re going to weed through it.<\/p>\n Ready? Put on your practical hats cause we\u2019re \u2019bout to get rational.<\/p>\n PS: We have a guide on what we think real love is<\/a> that you should definitely check out.\u00a0<\/p>\n Perhaps the most irritating relationship lie on the market is that there is one person out there for all of us. One person?! Out of billions?! Hell no, y\u2019all.<\/p>\n Nathan and I feel incredibly blessed that we found each other\u2026 but not because we are soulmates. While we each feel so lucky to have found another amazing person, we\u2019re not denying that there are other people out there whom we would have been compatible and even happy with. Of course, we don\u2019t like to think<\/em> of those people, now that we\u2019re together\u2026 but the point is, there are many other awesome humans that you could build a relationship and a life with.<\/p>\n Personally. I feel this idea should be a relief. It takes the pressure off, doesn\u2019t it? In our modern world, dating is hard enough; imagine if you had to hold out for that single soul that matched yours. The prospect would be quite overwhelming.<\/p>\n Instead, look for someone who makes you better, who encourages you to to meet your own<\/em>\u00a0destiny and your own<\/em>\u00a0potential and become the best version of yourself. Find a partner who challenges you<\/a>, believes in you, and is willing to work to create a solid, lasting future with you.<\/p>\n It may not be destiny, but it\u2019s two people consciously choosing to build a foundation of love and commitment. Isn\u2019t that way more awesome?<\/p>\n Have some nagging doubts about your relationship? While listening to your gut is valuable and legit, there\u2019s also the real possibility that there are other issues at play.<\/p>\n First, we need to distinguish normal worries<\/a> or anxiety from genuine red flags. Basically, red flags center around abuse, addiction, and other \u2018irreconcilable differences.\u201d Read more on the major relationship red flags here.<\/a><\/p>\n But other anxieties are often just intrusive thoughts that are coming from a deeper fear within. For instance, you might have a fear such as, \u201cWhat if I\u2019m settling?\u201d Conventional relationship advice might say, if you feel doubt, get out!<\/p>\n But I believe this is far from the truth. I believe a thought like that is simply a starting place for investigating your fears and your feelings. It\u2019s time to look deeper within and find out what the anxiety is all about. What does settling mean anyway? What\u2019s my real, core fear?\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n This leads me to another, similar relationship myth:<\/p>\n Oh gosh, no. Who among us is ever 100% sure about anything? There\u2019s this idea that cold feet are a sign of a problem or that having doubt during your engagement means you shouldn\u2019t get married, but most often, these hesitations and nerves are actually 100% okay.<\/p>\n Making a commitment like marriage is huge. Why wouldn\u2019t it cause you some anxiety? It\u2019s a life-altering, role-shifting, forever-and-ever proposition. Yikes! (Okay, not trying to scare you out of it. Marriage is awesome<\/a>, I promise!) But the point is that being 100% sure is not at all required to get married. And you should know you\u2019re in the majority if you feel, say, 70% ready before you hit the aisle. Doubt doesn\u2019t always mean don\u2019t.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n This is a tough one. We all want to feel love and feel loved. But love and excitement are different things. Love, as it grows, deepens and expands. While the early days of a relationship might involve more fluttery hearts and breathless anticipation, those heartbeats eventually slow down, and you catch your breath once more. The love deepens, but it doesn\u2019t go away.<\/p>\n The key is recognizing the difference. Many people panic when they stop feeling that \u201cspark,\u201d not sensing that it has been replaced by a more profound and more lasting version of love and affection. You can reignite that spark over and over<\/a>, but there\u2019s no doubt that love changes and grows with us. We must embrace these changes if we want to experience the depth of a long-lasting relationship.<\/p>\n If we continually search for emotional excitement and novelty, we\u2019ll never get to go the distance with someone, and I believe we\u2019re likely to miss out on the best parts of a romantic partnership.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n This idea has no doubt arisen from society\u2019s overemphasis on sex. You might not agree with me on this point, but I definitely think there\u2019s some misinformation about the importance of the role sex plays in our lives. Porn has perpetuated this (not to mention created some pretty insane expectations about orgasms, men\u2019s sexual prowess, and what women like in bed, just to name a few issues).<\/p>\n Is sex important? Yes.<\/p>\n Is sex important in a romantic relationship? Yes, absolutely.<\/p>\n Can you have a good relationship without lots of sex? Of course.<\/p>\n Sexual needs are going to vary from person to person and relationship to relationship. It\u2019s good to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all prescription for sex. (This seems like a good place to make a joke, but moving on\u2026)<\/p>\n Instead, work with your partner to discover one another\u2019s unique sexual needs and desires. Your sex life will be unique to you two, and what matters is your mutual satisfaction\u2026 no external parameters.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s a great article that tackles the topic: Can You Have a Good Relationship Without Sex?<\/a><\/p>\n Most people today realize that some conflict and disagreement is not only normal but is downright healthy.<\/p>\n This isn\u2019t to say that knock-down-drag-out brawls are indicative of a passionate, happy love story. Rather, it\u2019s about the balance and about ensuring that your conflicts are safe, healthy, and ultimately productive.<\/p>\n The key is fighting fair and fighting right.<\/p>\n This article from the New York Times<\/a> dates back to 1989, but the truth is very much evident even 30 years on:<\/p>\n \u201cThe most fruitful fights\u2026 were those in which the partners felt free to be angry with each other, felt they made themselves understood to their partner, and finally came to a resolution involving some degree of compromise. Such fights\u2026 give a couple the strong sense that they can weather conflict together.\u201d<\/p>\n It\u2019s worth investing time to learn how to manage conflict productively. Don\u2019t shy away from arguments, but instead turn them into a tool for building a better relationship.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n There\u2019s not much to be said about this one. Why did the mindset of playing it cool grow so popular in dating? Why do we grow more interested in someone if he or she doesn\u2019t act as interested or available? When is cloaking your true feelings ever the best bet? I\u2019ve always believed in being honest and upfront. Emotional availability is important.<\/a><\/p>\n Perhaps there is some psychological basis<\/a> for the idea that \u201cwe want what we can\u2019t have,\u201d but in my opinion, straightforwardness and authenticity are always the best approach. Why start your relationship off by playing games?<\/p>\n It\u2019s 2019. Things have changed. Heck, we even live longer! People aren\u2019t necessarily rushing to marry by age 20 anymore. Marriages are happening statistically later in life<\/a>\u00a0(which is reported to correlate to a lower divorce rate, yay!) as people prioritize career and other ventures first.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n But maybe you want to get married at 20 and start a family? You do you!<\/p>\n The point is, there is no standard timeline that people need to follow. The pressure to be engaged<\/a>, get married, buy a house, and have kids all by a certain age is unnecessary and no doubt contributes to the existential anxiety so many of us feel.<\/p>\n There\u2019s no rush to live life by your standards. We all have our own timeline, and it\u2019s the one that is right for us.<\/p>\n And I should also mention, not every timeline will include all the things. Having children or even getting married aren\u2019t for everyone. And they don\u2019t have to be.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n Sometimes, we think that being with the right person would be\/should be the answer to all our problems. But like anything, there\u2019s no cure-all for our issues. It isn\u2019t losing weight, landing the right job, getting married, or anything of the other things that we wish would magically turn our life around.<\/p>\n Sheesh, life is complicated, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n So by the same token, our romantic partner is not designed to meet all our needs and fulfill our every expectation. No one person can do that, and it\u2019s putting an enormous weight on the shoulders of our partner if that\u2019s what we\u2019re asking for.<\/p>\n Your partner will be a lot of things to you, including a friend<\/a>, but there are also needs you must meet yourself, as well as needs that can be met by your family, your community, your occupation, your hobbies, or your faith\/spirituality.<\/p>\n This is good to remember if you\u2019re feeling dissatisfied in your life. When we\u2019re looking to another person to fulfill a need for us, we can tend to project. This can turn into thoughts like \u201cI\u2019m bored in my relationship. Maybe we\u2019re unhappy. Maybe we should break up,\u201d which can spiral out of control into something bigger. But if you recognize a projection, you might discover a deeper truth.<\/p>\n Maybe you\u2019re lacking community and friendship. Perhaps creativity is missing in your days. These are the types of issues that can be projected onto the wrong person, so it\u2019s important to learn how to understand and tend to our own needs.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n Dorothy Boyd told Jerry Maguire, \u201cYou complete me,\u201d and the collective heart of the late 90s melted.<\/p>\n But that was just a movie. Should we really be looking for someone else to complete us and make us whole?<\/p>\n You guessed it\u2013nope!<\/p>\n You are enough, just as you are. Partners are not designed to complete us because we are already complete and whole in our very beings. So stop looking around for the mythical person who will fix you. Realize and embrace your wholeness just as you are.<\/p>\n That\u2019s not to say that a good partner won\u2019t help to fill in the cracks and dark places in your heart and in your soul. There can absolutely be a healing nature in a committed, loving relationship, but it\u2019s only part of the work that you have to do individually on yourself.\u00a0<\/p>\n Read this: Do You Love Me? How to Stop Seeking Reassurance in Relationships<\/a><\/p>\n I also admit that there is a unity in a long-term relationship, especially marriage, that is undeniable. After all, if you subscribe to a Christian viewpoint of marriage, two people become one.<\/p>\n But even within that symbolism, there is plenty of room to acknowledge that real love is born of two complete people, who don\u2019t complete<\/em> one another but complement<\/em> one another. Perhaps that\u2019s what we mean when we say someone brings out the best in us.<\/p>\n This is patently false. Feelings are, by their very nature, fleeting and changeable. It\u2019s actions and commitment that matter.<\/p>\n Does this mean that one day you\u2019ll suddenly stop loving your partner? That\u2019s highly unlikely. What it does<\/em> mean, however, is that you are likely to experience periods where you don\u2019t feel<\/em>\u00a0in love. Your emotional pull toward your partner might be waning. Yet at other moments, you may feel an emotional rush. This is totally okay.<\/p>\n These ebbs and flows are natural for a long-term relationship, and you shouldn\u2019t panic as your partnership goes through its various stages and transformations.<\/p>\n What matters is to continue to be loving and act in a giving manner. You know the notion that \u201cLove is not a feeling, it\u2019s an action?\u201d This is precisely where this ideology applies.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n Every relationship will go through its tough times and challenges. But don\u2019t be fooled into thinking that making a major life decision will eradicate your problems.<\/p>\n Too often, couples seem to think that a wedding or a baby<\/a> will change everything for the better, erasing all their issues and propelling the relationship toward happily ever after.<\/p>\n While marriage and children are wonderful parts of life, they should never be looked on as a band-aid for other problems. Not only will these transitions not have the desired effect, in all likelihood, they will only magnify and worsen the issues that are already there.<\/p>\n Instead, work on each step at a time, prioritizing your relationship and seeking to solve major issues before trying to tackle the next big thing.<\/p>\n PS: Don\u2019t be afraid to invest in couple\u2019s therapy. It\u2019s not just a \u201clast resort\u201d for marriages in trouble but a genuine tool that can help couples at all stages of life and relationships. Psychology Today<\/em> is a good resource for finding a couples counselor<\/a> in your area.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n One of the biggest issues I see in romantic relationships is not understanding how the other person gives and receives love. This trips up many couples, and it\u2019s not surprising. Nathan and I have experienced it firsthand in our own relationship, and learning about our love languages<\/a> has been instrumental in making a difference.<\/p>\n According to the bestselling book<\/a>\u00a0that coined the phrase, there are a total of 5 Love Languages. Once you know which one(s) your partner speaks, things make so much more sense<\/em>.<\/p>\n For instance, my major love language is overwhelmingly Words of Affirmation<\/a>. To me, I feel most loved by hearing or reading words from Nathan telling me about his feelings for me. I also prefer to give love by sharing my own feelings in words.<\/p>\n Yet Nathan receives and gives love naturally in other ways like Quality Time and Physical Touch (read The 5 Love Languages<\/a><\/em> for more on these). He has had to learn how to show me love verbally, and I\u2019ve had to work hard to make sure I\u2019m showing him love in the ways he needs it most.<\/p>\n This is a skill that all couples should acquire to ensure both partners are feeling loved, and all it takes is a bit of effort.<\/p>\n Mmm, this is a tough one. Infidelity is a horrible thing to go through for anyone. (I experienced it in a previous relationship and it really broke my heart<\/a>).<\/p>\n But, ultimately, I believe people can change, and if a person is truly repentant and wants to salvage the relationship, it can be done. I cannot imagine how hard it is, but there are many incredible stories of couples bouncing back from a cheating incident and growing a deeper, stronger love.<\/p>\n Infidelity is often a culmination of various relationship problems coming to a head. For couples recovering from infidelity, therapy can be instrumental in helping to tackle all issues in a relationship.<\/p>\n Read Next<\/strong>: The Marriage Mistakes<\/a> You Want to Avoid Making<\/p>\n I definitely am calling this relationship myth out.<\/p>\n People often romanticize the \u201cfirst love\u201d, and in truth, these are often very special. But in no way is the love I experienced at 19 even remotely comparable to the love within my marriage.<\/p>\n I think it is important to remember that your first love is typically when you are young and, let\u2019s face it, immature. So while your first romance might have the fireworks and excitement that novelty brings, it\u2019s not wise to compare all other relationships to the first. Don\u2019t put that first love on a pedestal.<\/p>\n As you grow as a human and as a partner, you\u2019ll be gaining deeper insight into yourself and learning more and more what it means to love and commit to another person. This creates sounder relationships that definitely have more depth, and I believe this growth translates into the greatest relationships of your life, especially if both partners are growing and learning side-by-side.<\/p>\n We\u2019re living in a time when people do things bigger and bigger. It\u2019s the era of the \u201cpromposal\u201d when even an invitation to attend the prom needs to be an event!<\/p>\n Videos circulate around the internet showcasing insane proposals on top of buildings, at the bottom of the sea, or in luxurious destinations and situations. Because of this, we\u2019ve largely come to believe that an engagement proposal should be, well, larger than life!<\/p>\n But trust me, this is not the case. This creates a great deal of undue pressure on everyone involved<\/a>. Your darling isn\u2019t going to say no because your proposal doesn\u2019t include fireworks and live animals. Make it special and romantic<\/a>, yes, but don\u2019t go broke or crazy trying to create something that\u2019s going to go viral. What matters is the two of you and the moment between you.<\/p>\n That said, proposals don\u2019t necessarily need to be a surprise, either. I\u2019m willing to bet the vast majority of engagements that occur have been discussed and planned prior to the proposal, at least to some degree. This makes sense in a time when couples often live together before engagement\/marriage and when it\u2019s increasingly common for both partners to take an equal, vocal role in planning their mutual future.<\/p>\n A proposal doesn\u2019t have to be totally unexpected to be incredible. I knew almost exactly when Nathan was going to propose, but it didn\u2019t make the moment any less beautiful, sweet, and memorable. We got engaged on a hike in Virginia<\/a>, by the way, with no one around to witness it. We wanted it private and special in that way.<\/p>\n Speaking of out-dated notions, there\u2019s an old relationship myth that says a man (or whoever is doing the proposing) should spend the equivalent of 3-4 months\u2019 salary on the engagement ring. Egads!<\/p>\n This means if you\u2019re earning $100,000 per year (which, if you are, congrats, #goals) you\u2019d be meant to drop a cool $21k on that ring.<\/p>\n Do yourself and your future spouse a favor: cut that down by 1\/4, and use the rest to fund your next massive expense: the wedding. Or save for your future together.<\/p>\n Should love be easy? Should the right relationship just work<\/em>? It\u2019s a nice idea, but the reality is that relationships are hard and relationships are work.<\/p>\n Relationships are work because we are human people and we are naturally flawed. And when you put two people together to share a home or a life? There\u2019s bound to be friction.<\/p>\n That means that, quite often, relationships demand effort and require maintenance<\/a>. Relationships are messy, complicated, and rarely simple.<\/p>\n But just because something is work doesn\u2019t mean it is not incredibly worth it. Anything worth having usually asks difficult things of us; relationships are no different.<\/p>\n But<\/em>, you may be thinking,\u00a0wouldn\u2019t things just be easier<\/strong> if I was with the right<\/strong> person<\/em>?<\/p>\n Spoiler alert: problems in a relationship are not just your partner\u2019s fault. In fact, you\u2019re going to run into the same problems over and over in any<\/em> relationship because YOU are one-half of the problem. You might have more compatibility with certain people, making some issues easier to deal with, but ultimately, you\u2019re going to bring all your own crap and baggage with you to any romantic relationship.<\/p>\n Accept it, welcome it, and get to work.<\/p>\n Also see: Our 30-Day Relationship Challenge<\/a><\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n There\u2019s an idea out there that says, if you really love each other, you should be inseparable!<\/p>\n But most of us can readily appreciate that this is far from the truth. There\u2019s so much to be gained and enjoyed during time spent alone or apart. And as they say, absence really does make the heart grow fonder. That\u2019s one cliche that I actually do put stock in, even though I\u2019ve written about<\/a> how much I dislike being apart!!<\/p>\n Spending time on your own hobbies, with your own friends, or pursuing your own goals is extremely important. Just because you\u2019re in a relationship does not mean you and your S.O. must be attached at the hip. Remain your own person, and you\u2019ll have a lot more to bring to your partnership.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n You\u2019re getting married; you\u2019re not dead!\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n This is a funny quote, but there\u2019s a lot of truth there. Just because you\u2019re in a long-term relationship or married does not mean your ability to feel attracted to other people is going to shut down.<\/p>\n Nope, you\u2019re still likely to feel attracted to someone else now and then.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n Unfortunately, it can be easy to fall into a gray area here or take an attraction to a dangerous place. While you can have feelings of attraction, not acting on them (i.e., not cheating or flirting mercilessly) is the mature step that keeps your relationship in the place of priority.<\/p>\n Speaking of flirting, there are some who think that a touch of harmless flirting can be good for a marriage. This is up to you and your partner to decide, and it\u2019s a good idea to discuss boundaries so there\u2019s no confusion and no one is hurt by flirting behavior, no matter how innocent.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n Fortunately, I think that the modern man generally recognizes that birth control is a two-way street. If he doesn\u2019t, ladies, you\u2019ve got some talking to do.<\/p>\n It takes two people to make a baby, so it should take two people to prevent pregnancy.<\/p>\n Birth control is a burden that is physical, emotional, and even financial. Together, you and your partner should look at ways to share that burden. This article<\/a> offers more guidance on this topic.<\/p>\n One oft-repeated piece of marriage advice is to \u201cnever go to bed angry.\u201d\u00a0The idea behind this must be that you should settle any disagreements before your heads hit the pillows.<\/p>\n Well, we\u2019ve learned from firsthand experience that sometimes, going to sleep actually solves problems.<\/p>\n Nathan and I mostly tend to argue at night (anyone else?), which likely stems from a combination of tiredness, crankiness, and an inclination for emotions to be a little wackier in the evenings. Hence, when we occasionally fight, it\u2019s almost always pretty late at night, and the fights are rarely rational. Sometimes they\u2019re not even about anything important.<\/p>\n When we stop our conflict to let our minds and hearts rest, we almost always wake up feeling 100% better. Not only is our foolish argument of the night before all but forgotten but we\u2019re also in a far better place to apologize to one another and get back to working as a team.<\/p>\n Sometimes, going to bed angry is curative.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n This relationship myth isn\u2019t necessarily a negative one, but I do think it deserves a closer look.<\/p>\n Couples frequently do form between people who have a lot of elements in opposition, but I\u2019m willing to bet you that statistically, most of these pairs actually do<\/em> share the most important things in common.<\/p>\n Sure, you can be short when your partner is tall. Maybe you\u2019re an extrovert, and your lover is an introvert. Perhaps one of you is vegetarian while the other can\u2019t get enough meat.<\/p>\n But your compatibility on deeper levels is probably more aligned, meaning you likely connect when it comes to values and goals. Values are a massive part of the core of who we are, and in happy couples, alignment in this area seems to be key.<\/p>\n So, opposites in personality or not, here are the things you should be looking for in a partner<\/a>. And values are definitely on that list.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n Should a marriage or long-term partnership operate constantly on a 50\/50 ratio? This is a challenging question.<\/p>\n 50\/50 is a ratio that makes sense; in a partnership of two, both people contribute equally to the success of the relationship.<\/p>\n And 100\/100 makes sense too, with each individual giving 100% of their effort to the partnership.<\/p>\n But life happens. People encounter obstacles, hear bad news, are going through a tough time<\/a>. Should they still need to give 50 or 100% to their relationship?<\/p>\n Our answer is no. This is a number that can be endlessly and constantly changing in a relationship. There are periods when you will be the one putting far more effort into your marriage. You might be doing more at home if your partner is ill or out of work, for instance, simply showing up emotionally if they\u2019re suffering from depression.<\/p>\n In an equal and happy partnership, you don\u2019t mind picking up some of the slack for your partner because you know they would\u2014and will\u2014do the same for you when the tables are turned.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t become fixated on numbers or perfect ratios. This can lead to a \u2018keeping score\u2019 mentality that is harmful. Instead, be aware that relationships have seasons, and give all that you can when you can.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n Finally, my least favorite of all the relationship myths out there: that love should be a fairy tale, and that you shouldn\u2019t settle for anything\u00a0less.<\/p>\n Hopefully, society is moving past this notion. Relationships should be vessels of growth and beauty, but this is often messy and complex. Rarely is any part of life like a fairy tale; eradicating our expectations of a fairy tale love story is important to appreciate the true beauty of our romantic relationships.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t matter how your story begins, either. Despite the romantic tale<\/a> of the way we met, we had struggles like any other couple. I faced challenges with constant reassurance seeking<\/a> and fear of losing Nathan. We both have varying degrees of anxiety that have often come into conflict. We\u2019 have divergent energy levels and social needs. And we\u2019ve struggled with external problems like money. This is real stuff and it\u2019s so normal.<\/p>\n So, love is not a fairy tale, and it is not a myth. It\u2019s the real<\/em>\u00a0parts of a love story that are so amazing.<\/p>\n
\nRelationship Myths to Stop Believing Right Now<\/h2>\n
1. There\u2019s one person for everyone.<\/h3>\n
2. Doubt means don\u2019t.<\/h3>\n
3. You need to be \u201c100% sure\u201d when you get married.<\/h3>\n
4. You need to always feel \u201ca spark.\u201d<\/h3>\n
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5. You need to have tons of sex to have a good relationship.<\/h3>\n
6. Fighting is a sign of a doomed relationship.<\/h3>\n
7. Playing hard to get is the best approach.<\/h3>\n
8. There\u2019s a set timeline for when milestones should occur in a relationship.<\/h3>\n
9. Your partner can fulfill all your needs.<\/h3>\n
10. Your partner should complete you.<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n11. In the right relationship, your feelings will never change.<\/h3>\n
12. Getting married\/having a baby will fix your relationship issues.<\/h3>\n
13. We all love\/feel loved in the same way.<\/h3>\n
14. Once a cheater, always a cheater.<\/h3>\n
15. There\u2019s no love like your first love.<\/h3>\n
16. The proposal needs to be a surprise, and it needs to be massive.<\/h3>\n
17. And the ring needs to cost approximately 3-4 month\u2019s salary.<\/h3>\n
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18. Relationships should be easy.<\/h3>\n
19. You should want to be together 24\/7.<\/h3>\n
20. You should never feel attracted to anyone but your partner\/spouse.<\/h3>\n
21. What matters is what you do with that feeling\/attraction.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n
22. Birth control is 100% the woman\u2019s responsibility.<\/h3>\n
23. You should never go to bed angry.<\/h3>\n
24. Opposites attract.<\/h3>\n
25. Marriage should always be 50\/50.<\/h3>\n
26. Love should be a fairy tale.<\/h3>\n
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